First of all, I want you to know that there are many things in life you cannot control. You really need to learn to accept that.
There are times when you will want to find a way to change the course of something, but you need to pray about it and L E T I T G O. You will always want to see the best in others but over time you’ll see that people’s true colors will come out eventually. You will want some friendships to be forever, but sometimes you just outgrow each other. It’s okay, it’s no one fault. There are some friendships that are meant to be temporary lessons rather than lifelong. You can forgive someone even if they never apologize to you- forgive those who hurt you.
You need to know that you are not defined by any one person. No man, friend, or idol. You don’t need anyone else’s approval besides God’s. Don’t focus on past experiences because you know what? You are human and mistakes will be made. You will definitely learn from them and I pray that it makes you a better person for it.
Ok this might be a hard one for you. You’re going to feel a lot of pain in the future but you will be made so strong for it, you will grow a very thick skin and some people won’t know how to approach you sometimes regarding these things. There are people who have never lost anyone so they won’t know how to feel or act around you. You can’t blame them for not going through the things you have had to go through; everyone has a different journey even if they have the same destination.
I want you to know that God has some really great things planned for you, keep the faith and work on your relationship with God. Have constant conversations with Him and know that he is ALWAYS listening. I can’t tell you how I know this but all those prayers will be answered so keep praying! You are so blessed you don’t even know.
Lastly, I want you to always be grateful. Be grateful for the struggle, for the blessings, for the people who entered your life and have stuck by- always let them know how much you appreciate them because they are really your rocks and you’re so lucky to have them.
I hope this will give you a little hope because there will always obstacles but it’s okay because they will lead to amazing results and blessings.
This week has been full of enlightenment. I am insanely grateful for every moment that I am blessed with. I’m so lucky to be surrounded with like-minded individuals who always want to see me do better, who encourage me to pursue my dreams as well as setting high expectations for myself.
It is so easy to become content; in life, in your job, with your partner, or simply with yourself. While I don’t think there is anything wrong with being content, I do think that being content for too long can be harmful. We should always be setting new goals for ourselves, wanting to better ourselves and pursuing things that are out of our comfort zone. Comfort zones are just that, comfortable. It’s like sitting on a comfortable couch and watching tv; at first you say it’ll be for one show then next thing you know you’ve been on the couch for hours with a large portion of your day wasted. This is what we do in life, we stay content and we waste portions of our lives.
I was blessed enough to receive a great blessing in relation to work this week and it was a reminder that we should always be pushing ourselves to do better, and aim higher. There is always something you can do to become greater, practice only makes you a better version of yourself. I know much of the hesitation in regards to this is fear; of failure, of not getting the position you wanted, of being rejected. Why do we see failure as a bad thing? In my eyes I see failure as a motivation. It shows that I actually tried. You must grow to embrace all your obstacles and let downs because they are in reality redirections.
I feel as though often times God creates a fork in the road and when we think we should go one way he closes that door and instead opens two more. I recently heard this from a wise man who said “there will always be great opportunities in life, but they won’t always be right for you.” God is always one step ahead of you. It’s okay to not know what is ahead of you, just be excited because God will only have good things in store for you. You need to let go of being content and learn to embrace the new opportunities that God has in store for you.
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Prayer: God, thank you for always worrying about me and my success. Thank you for always keeping the good people in my life and showing me who is not healthy for me to be around and finding a way for them to exit my life. You know what I need before I realize it and I am so grateful that you will always have a plan even when I don’t. I thank you and I love you. In Jesus’ name, amen.
There are times when I feel like things aren’t going my way.
These times in our lives can turn into two things: they can either make us stronger or they can break us. The only ones with the choice is us, we get to choose what the circumstances do to us and how they will affect us.
Much of the time when I am stressed it is because I am trying to do so many things at once and putting a tremendous amount of stress on myself that at the end of the day I am trying to do too much and the result is nothing gets done 100%. When we put pressure on ourselves, we become our worst critics. We begin to devalue ourselves when we know that we really encouraging words so today I want you to be your own Rock. When everyone leaves you and no one else is there’s standing by your side- be your own cheerleader and tell yourself that YOU GOT THIS. Because know in your heart that you can and you will because when your heart is in the right place and you are doing something for the right reason, God will always come through for you.
So many times we let ourselves be controlled by the way we feel towards others. What I mean by this is that those people you can’t stand even looking at, that anger you feel, that grudge you’re holding on to is actually hurting you more than it will ever affect them. It has taken me a long time to learn this but the time finally came one day where I had to ask myself- how is being mad at so and so helping me?
Truth was, it doesn’t. In fact by holding onto this grudge it hurts you every day because you walk around with this pain and resentment day in and day out and it takes a toll on you. We are only human and as such the most powerful thing we can do is to FORGIVE. I know I know, I dropped the f bomb. Look, I know it’s not that easy because it’s usually the people closest to us that hurt us the most. We invest time and love on people and when they let you down, it hurts more than anything. I’m not saying that the road will be short or easy, but I can assure you that it will help you a great deal.
Learning to forgive is a task that must first be done within; you have to really forgive from the heart. This will be a bit uncomfortable especially if you let the anger and grudges fester for a long time but the moment you can forgive the person who has caused you harm, you will be set free. Forgiving is freedom; freedom from being a prisoner to something that hurt you in the past. So many times I have compared my life to others, my success to others and I can even get a little jealous and then I remember that we all have our own path, God has chosen you to do something specific with your life. Don’t take that for granted. When you release the things that have been holding you back, He will bless you beyond your wildest dreams.
It’s time, let it all go. Let you prosper and let yourself grow. Always remember: God’s got you.
I have been a fan of Devon Franklin since my sister introduced me to his first book “Produced by Faith” and I instantly found myself so impressed by his writing style and his sense of purpose. A few things that really inspire me about him include how he stands up for his faith, for serving God as a preacher and how he doesn’t let that affect his career – in fact it has only furthered his career as a producer. When I found out that he married Meagan Good I was so surprised, firstly because I only knew of her as an actress and I didn’t really associate her with being an outspoken Christian. Soon after, I found out that Devon and Meagan wrote a book called “The Wait” which was released in early March 2016.
I have since read the entire book and WOW. Have you ever read a book that you like so much that you intentionally drag it out as much as possible? The day finally came where I had to finish it and I’m so sad it’s over. I feel like this book has answered so many internal questions that I didn’t even know I had. For so long I have struggled with wanting to settle down and much of it has to do with the phrase itself. Why would I want to SETTLE for just anyone? I know the right person is out there for me but I have been approaching it all wrong.
In the generation I am from, the 90’s it’s a miracle if you find someone who is actually in a serious relationship that you can guarantee is heading for marriage. Don’t get me wrong I’m not judging anyone’s relationship and I wish you all the best, I’m just stating a fact. A lot of the people my age are just “talking” or “seeing where it goes” which doesn’t make any sense at all. If you don’t know where you’re heading as a couple you should probably talk about that considering that you’re investing so much time on them. This book has clarified to me the importance of taking your time to really get to know people, we don’t always take our time to explore the person we’re interested in other ways than just sexually.
As humans we want to show our “love” or “passion” by touch or by giving ourselves to the person we care about. In all honesty I never knew why I was “waiting” before but now that I see the importance of that Waiting process I realize that if you are waiting to be intimate with anyone it should be for a reason, not just because you’re having a dry spell. There are many lessons about this, about learning more about who you really are, and learning who God has for you. I would give this book 5/5 on a 1 to 5 scale, not because I’m biased but because this book really spoke to me and I am so thankful that these two shared their experience and I wish them nothing but blessings in their marriage. I thank you for writing about the reality that is marriage in this day and age, and doing your part to point people in the right direction.
I love to see people happy, I love to be the reason someone smiles.
In many situations in my life I have done things just to make someone else happy, I have sacrificed things in my life to see it please someone else. The problem with that is that it leaves me feeling like there’s a void. Oftentimes I look back to reflect on things and I wonder why I did something or ask myself what were you thinking?
Have you ever had a moment where you randomly remember something that happened in the past and you just can’t remember the justification for doing it? In reality, we as human are creatures of habit and once we begin to do something there is high possibility that we will not change it.
Why do you think this is? Change is scary. A lot of the reasons why I haven’t done something are because I was afraid that I would fail. In fact, the reason it took me so long to start this blog was because I would think, “No one will read it, and no one will even care.” Why do we let our fears control us? Why do we allow our growth to stall because we’re already foreseeing all the things that could go wrong? We create all these imaginary scenarios that haven’t even happened. I myself have been victim of this; I have been too worried to do something because I’ve also cared far too much what others will think.
The ironic thing is that the reason I decided to do this blog is because I know a lot of the time I rant about topics in my life but I also know that we need people that we can relate too and I am not the only one who goes through things in life and I am also not the only one who needs to read the harsh reality of things. Sometimes it’s not about what you want to hear, but instead what you need to hear.
Stop being so scared, it’s true you could probably try something new and maybe it won’t work out but there’s also a chance that it could be your breakthrough or your calling. You will never know until you give it a shot, give yourself a chance- you’re capable of great things. Most importantly, if you decide to do something, do it for YOU and for no one else.